Attending a MIAM does not commit you to mediation
Attending a MIAM does not commit you to mediation
This guide is part of our Mediation Guides, which explain how family mediation works and when it may be appropriate.
Mediation is a structured process that helps people resolve disputes with the support of a neutral, trained mediator.
In family situations, it is commonly used by couples who are separating or divorcing, and by those who need to make decisions about children or finances without going to court.
The mediator does not take sides or make decisions. Their role is to help both people communicate, understand their options, and work towards practical agreements where possible.
Mediation is designed to provide a calmer, more controlled alternative to court.
Mediation can be used by couples with or without children, at different stages of separation or divorce.
It is often considered before court proceedings, but it can also take place alongside or after court involvement.
Mediation involves a series of structured conversations, supported by a mediator. Typically, this includes:
The pace and number of sessions vary depending on the situation. Nothing is agreed unless both people choose to agree.
The mediator helps guide discussions so both people can explore options in a structured and balanced way.
Mediation focuses on forward-looking, workable outcomes, rather than deciding who is right or wrong.
The mediator is an independent professional who supports the process, not one person over the other. Their role is to:
The mediator does not give legal advice or impose outcomes. Any decisions remain with the people involved.
Mediation itself is not legally binding.
Where agreements are reached, these can often be recorded and later made legally binding with the support of solicitors, if appropriate.
Further detail is covered separately in guidance about whether mediation outcomes are legally binding.
Many people begin mediation unsure whether it will work in their situation. Part of the mediator’s role is to help assess this and explain the available options clearly.
If you would prefer more structured guidance, you may find it helpful to use our Mediation Suitability Check.
In many family cases, the court expects mediation to be considered before an application is made.
This usually involves attending a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM), unless an exemption applies.
A MIAM is not a mediation session. It is a separate meeting used to explain mediation and consider whether it may be appropriate.
If you’re trying to understand whether mediation could help in your situation, the next step is often to explore how the process works in practice.
If you are considering mediation as a way to resolve separation issues, you can also learn more about: family mediation.